One Inch Closer to babysteph

i reli reli reli don understand why there r often financial disputes when someone in the family passes away… i hate to hear it!! well, it seems to me that having more siblings may not be a blessing at all! when there are more siblings, then there is a higher tendency of disputes.

an aunt of mine passed away couple of mths ago, there were gossips here & there aft the funeral…tot the gossips have ceased completely. but recently just b4 the new yr, heard some stories again.. 好烦人!!!! well, these things dun concern me directly, but they concern people in my immediate family.. and i DO HAVE my own pt of view on these matters!

可惜我是晚辈。。。 ultimately, we still live in a plc where it is not right for the young to question the elders.. sometimes i reli feel like questioning some adults for the way they do things, for the way they decide things. and for their stupid behaviour — they gossip & question & say bad things behind the back of a sibling, where in actual fact, they could have just outrightly question that sibling. itz they themselves  who don have the guts to 争取 the answer to their questions.

and i don understand y some pple, even aft they die, they still must give those living so much trouble and inconvenience! yes, at some pt, i reli hate that person who has passed away, for being so hard-hearted to her own siblings.. but no point la, gettin angry with a dead person..haha..wat for..nothing can be changed..

RELI don understand, someone who’s so religious, everyday tok about her own religion, preaching how gd the religion has made her into…. actually can be so hard-hearted, drew up a will & donated her 70% of the flat to her own religion, leaving her elder sister who shares the flat with her, homeless! yes, her elder sister was the ONLY person looking aft her during the last few yrs of her life. the whole family got a shock! big shock! think she’s a failure to that religion! cos that religion does teach followers to care for their families too. u first provide for ur family, when u’ve extra, then give to the religion.

not only hard-hearted to her sister, but to her brother as well. years ago, when she bought the flat fr her brother, the brother sold her the flat in less than half price, which means the brother had to suffer a big loss..and the poor brother himself is still paying his own housing loan now, at the age of 64. even she wanted to donate her share of the flat to her religion, she should have repaid her brother 1st rite? everyone knows her brother is not doing well financially nowadays. wat she has done now is like, takin advantage of the low price that her brother sold her, and then now giving the flat at a high mkt price to her religion.

call her kind? call her good-hearted? is this wat her religion taught her? obviously she does not do wat she preached!! she did volunteer work, helped autistic kids, etc, etc, but she can actually treat her own family dis way, bring them trouble, inconvenience & disappointment after she dies.

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so i’m kinda feeling not so happy for diz 1-2 weeks..after hearing such things & not being able to do anything about it..feeling quite negative & pesssimistic about alot of things…but not to worry, i wont show my unhappiness in front of u frens..in fact, most of the time i feel ok, normal, itz only when i tink of diz things, then i’ll feel very bleak about life, about kinship, about human relationships in particular…

please do not take kinship for granted..别把亲情当成理所当然的！i always beliv, in dis world, in such a society, at dis age in time, it is best to only depend on urself.. wherever possible, gotta tink for urself 1st. i’m not saying gotta be selfish, but b4 u lend a helping hand, make sure u have enough ability, and don expect anything in return. well, if u expect something in return, it is better not to help, in case u’ll be disappointed when the other party does not return ur favour, or worse, do sth that may hurt u, whether intentionally or unintentionally..

at dis pt of time, i do tink that life is ugly..

i would hate to hear again, about this family dispute..but i noe it hasn’t ended..sianz….